you’re not that important

This is Part One of a two part exercise. Repeat: this is not a philosophical declaration to carry around in your heart. Rather, it's a soul-teaser to wind through your bean and shake up some thought forms.

The world will go on if
: you don't show up at work.
: you don't post to your blog tomorrow.
: you cancel the meeting.
: you stay in bed all day.
: you don't sign the contract.
: you don't answer the phone.
: you don't check your email.
: you leave town.

CEO, #1, Captain, President, The Leader.
Who cares. It's just business, moving parts, day to day. You can be replaced.

Mother. Father. Teacher.
Aside from single parents caring for little ones, you're just not the only influence in your children's lives. They may not even want to stick around when they grow up. You may never be thanked. They will find their way with or without you.

Lover. Partner. So-called Significant Other.
Replaceable. And God knows, as a partner, you can certainly be improved upon.

You're one in a about six and half billion. A speck. A blink in the eye of God. A nano micro weeny zip in the eons of time and vastness of space. No one's happiness really depends on you - no one's. People can take care of themselves like they always have. It's most likely that one hundred years from now, nobody will so much as mention your name.

You're just passing through, and times flies.

Life will go on with or without you.

How does it feel to consider that?



Tune in tomorrow for Part Two.



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  • Corona
    Ouch, I am the single parent and care giver of my four year old boy... and in spite of all the sincere love and happiness it provides me with, I want to break out of the laying down position of recovering from an accident and picking up my professional life again. So I look forward for the second part...
  • Maria
    As a mother, hard to accept....as a woman, wonderful to know....as a human, freedom at last!
  • sean stargazer
    It's as I always suspected, I am not responsible for other people's feelings, happiness, or personal power. No matter how much they may insist to the contrary.
    Thanks for the clarity.
  • Richard
    Sound like someone read the Book of Ecclesiastes this morning

    The thing that hath been, it is that which shall be; and that which is done is that which shall be done: and there is no new thing under the sun.

    Is there any thing whereof it may be said, See, this is new? it hath been already of old time, which was before us.

    There is no remembrance of former things; neither shall there be any remembrance of things that are to come with those that shall come after.
  • I echo the sentiment of relief haha I've found myself getting caught up in well, myself lately. Wondering what people are thinking of my phone calls in the office, wondering if people are wondering what I'm doing - insanity. People are so caught up in their own crap anyways! Thanks for writing this.
  • As ever...you inspire. I referenced this in my blog today http://bit.ly/ESj3P.

    What a great way to name it....thank you. There is hugeness in this release.
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  • It took me a long time to accept many of these concepts - especially around work. It was only when I was working myself to sickness and burnout that I finally said "enough is enough" switched jobs and stopped working incessantly - you know what? Life went n, my job went on, and my boss is happy with my work!
  • During a very dark period in my early 20s, I felt as though someone had lifted a veil of sorts from my eyes. Looking around, I really understood for the first time that people were going about their business, shopping, talking, eating, laughing, suffering, with or without my presence. Intellectually I'd known for a while that I'm not that important--no one is--but to truly SYNTHESIZE a piece of intellectual knowledge is a whole other animal.

    I felt free, unfettered, and infinitely kinder toward others and to myself. Also, knowing that the world spins with or without us is pretty liberating: why not paint, sing, travel, cook? What's the worst that could happen?

    That said, I think Walt Whitman was pretty spot-on when he said, "I contain multitudes." We all are simultaneously inconsequential and valuable beyond our wildest measure.
  • I don't know how I feel. Yes, free-er, if I'm imagining that it's true. But also like I don't really believe it is. Business would go on, but my business wouldn't. My family would be completely without income if the cogs stopped. If I went loony-bin crazy or got on the wrong flight or...anything.

    On the other side, it would require other people in my life to grow if I shrunk. That would be great. Other people shrinking is what has made me grow, after all. Isn't that strange?
  • This is great stuff!
    I've always thought that people (including yours truly) put waaayyy too much emphasis on the power of one individual. I can, personally, relate to the corporate observation. I'm glad I'm not the only one who believes this!

    Of course, there are those individuals who have proved me wrong (Martin Luther King, Jr., Harvey Milk, etc. etc.). But, I get the point you're making and whole-heartedly agree!

    Oh, and, I love your site! You go, girl!
  • Suzanne
    Sweet relief. I'm breathing better. And it feels completely new to think like this. Looking forward to Part 2 as well!
  • Traci
    I don't know...a little nervous, I think. Which is very interesting. Can't wait for part 2!
  • rachel
    What a relief!!
  • A ha! I was wondering, trolling, anticipating both relief and sadness. I'm on the relief side, with a very small smidge of melancholy. But most, "fhew!, pressure's off."
  • chris
    for me it too feels like a huge relief.

    it also compels me to want to focus my energies on one or two key things that could make a world of difference, instead of sweating all the petty stuff (or petting all the sweaty stuff) which I find myself doing all the ruddy time.
  • it feels like a huge relief.
  • 'nothing you can sing that can't be sung, nothing you can do that can't be done, nowhere you can be that isn't where you're meant to be... it's easy!...' Of course, it is sad to imagine a world without the Beetles. Sometimes my smallness vs the vastness of the universe, especially in regard to other people's happiness, intimidates me, and sometimes the thought frees me. I love being 'of use', 'making a difference'.... but those Beetles got it right. All you need is love. The flip side, that we are all very influential, is also true when you factor in quantum mechanics, which makes love doubly important. Thanks for this awesome reminder, so well put!
  • gator, lovely sync on this: I'm just back from Vegas where we saw the Beatles Love show and these lyrics really stayed with me. Going to search my iTunes right now for it.
    xo
  • sandy
    holy-shake-me-up on a monday morning!! can't wait to see part II...
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