burning questions with Dyana Valentine

Rare beauty, busy-ddiction, and not holding it back

I'm so jazzed to launch my Burning Questions interview series with some wit and wisdom from the one, the only, (put your hands together for...) Dyana Valentine. Lady Dy came to one of my Fire Starter groups in LA this spring. It was a magical night in part to her shimmer and substance. Dyana is part Aphrodite and part Clarissa Pinkola Estes, with a heaping dose of the Grandmaster of Funk, George Clinton. And as my creativity coach, she's helping me tear the roof off the mutha f*cker (aka my next book.) Her claim: "Helping self-starters self-finish, one project at a time."

1. What are you trying to discover?
Ways we can connect and collaborate to make electrifying changes in the way business is conducted and life is lived.

2. What do you believe that you didn’t believe before? What changed your mind?
I never believed that relaxing into something would get you anywhere; that and that being calm could be productive. Oh, shit--where do I start? Every time I stop this autobahn-style schedule; rest for a day or so; take a day of silence--magic (and yes, I mean MAGIC) happens. Clients roll in; I have a productively inspiring dream; a new workshop springs out of a well-crafted, slow dinner at home. The evidence is there for the powerful productivity of peaceful energy--and so is the devotion to my busy-ddiction.

I still schedule myself within an inch of my truth, but on those remarkable days when I shut up and sit down--the beauty is there. Maybe I need to reexamine my belief that beauty is rare, huh?

3. What do you know the most about?
Photography, cooking, parsing large concepts into easy-lingo, connecting seemingly disparate ideas and making sense of patterns.

4. What book(s) are you always telling people to read?
Dan Roam: The Back of the Napkin
Malcolm Gladwell: Blink
Alice Waters: Chez Panisse Vegetables
Allan and Bargara Pease: The Definitive Book of Body Language

5. Inspiration flashback: When is the last time you thought, “Yes! That person has so got it going on!”?
Seriously: in June at the Fire Starter about YOU (mischievous sage, laser-lens witness). Melanie Orndorff (wicked smart idea mine); Jeni Herberger (stunner, visionary, ass kicker), Steve Gordon, Jr. (design a go-go, psychiatric nurse calming presence)

6. I’m going to give you a word. Tell me what the first thing that comes to mind when you read it... Ready? The word is: fecund.
Pregnancy, potential, creating conditions for miracles to happen; world-wide distribution; name in lights; striding across a stage with a cheek-mic rocking some prada-meets-patagonia superfly duds and TELLING IT.

7. What question are you currently living?
Knowing what I know about myself, my values and my goals: how dare I hold back?

Dyana, darling, You? Even more unleashed? I dare you.

find Dyana:
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Next week's Burning Questions Interview: Chris Guillebeau, world traveler and founder of The Art of Non Conformity

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17 comments so far. add your own.

 

Fantastic! Love this new feature and what a great first interviewee - I am now officially a fan. My first takeaway from this? That the most fabulous women have big, unruly hair. I've gotta get me some of that. Why did perms go out again?

 
 

Love this: "Knowing what I know about myself, my values and my goals: how dare I hold back?"

I'm going to ask myself that on an hourly basis until it sinks in.

Thank you, Dyana and Danielle!

Lorena

 
 

I love the word "fecund." Makes me think of the book Prodigal Summer by Barbara Kingsolver.

 
 

"How dare I hold back?" Incredible. And I think my superpower is also connecting seemingly disparate ideas and she put that knack into such beautiful words. Grateful for the introduction!

 
 

holy sh!t! "how dare i hold back?" BRILLIANT. i'm going to soak that up for while.

 
 

Cheryl: you got that right--let your hair FLY! Thank you Laura, Briana (let's wear our capes together one night:), Lorena and Betsy. I'm soaking in YOUR goodness!

 
 

Hi Dyana,
Great to meet you. You and Danielle must need flame proof capes - she's been on fire recently and your energy level's off the chart! What a combo! I smiled when I read the bit about you being a great parser of big concepts and a pattern spotter. As a coach, pattern spotting's one of my favourite things!

 
 

Janice: it's my pleasure--oh, yeah, D and I are rocking the flame-FULL capes, I'll have you know. I just got reviews back from a class I teach and high energy was mentioned:) Us pattern-seekers need to stick together.

 
 

Danielle, if it weren't for the bit about cooking, I'd begin to wonder if you and Dyana had been separated at birth. She's totally on your bus, isn't she?

Also, I've just scheduled my first session with Dyana. I can't wait!!! Here's to beating the crap out of inertia.


Traci Post
13 Aug 09
 
 

I SO identified with the busybusybusy vs. relaxing and ALLOWING wonderful things to happen. Trusting the quietness. Trusting that all things come to fruition in the exact perfect moment, and me getting all hopped up and pushy just doesn't help anything. And I wonder if maybe FECUND is when all that crazy outward energy gets suddenly calm and deep = rich, loamy mud that can grow anything easily and naturally. Oooooooohhh - I like it!

 
 

Sam: I realllly like it. Loamy goodness, yess! You inspired me to trust myself on a piece I'm writing today--interestingly enough, it's about being all hopped up and no where to go! Thanks for synching up.

 

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