what failures are you grateful for?

 
 

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Success and failure go hand in hand.

"The things you are fired for are often the things that in later life you will be celebrated and given life time achievement awards for!" Francis Ford Coppola was canned for writing an "odd" and awkward script for the now legendary film Patton. The film was shelved, took years to make, and then went on to win an Oscar for best screenplay. Meanwhile, Coppola was working on The Godfather and was also on the verge of being canned from that film. He figures the glory from the Oscar saved his butt from being fired from The Godfather...which as we all know, went down in movie making history.

If I hadn't been rejected from art school, I'd never have written my first book. If I'd gotten that gig with the big publishing house, I wouldn't have met The Dalai Lama. If I'd stayed in my last company, I wouldn't be writing the White Hot Truth.

What's "odd" is often revolutionary (change happens at the edges..beware the majority.) Artistry rarely compromises, it just looks for a new place to express itself. "Good" will never, ever, ever be as deeply fine as giving it your all come hell or high water.

Thank God for failure.

What failures are you grateful for?

  • I had to do a million things perfectly wrong to get to where I'm at today, and for that I'm grateful.

    Finding a place of gratitude out of all failure is truly a peaceful place to be. It's hard to name just one failure... failed out of school (now I'm finishing my MBA), failed a marriage (in Dec. I married my best friend on the island of Kauai), failed at sobriety over and over (last week I celebrated 3 years), failed at control (i turn my control over on a daily basis)... Life has simply gotten better and easier once I got out of the way.
  • Failure is just feedback. Feedback on life is good. I love the post and the story. With out failure there is no success. The Ying and Yang of Failure and Success. It sometimes takes a while to recover but there is ALWAYS another side to failure when you are ready to look at it.
  • @Terrill..ific
    "Failure is feedback" - that's great! Thanks!
  • I am grateful for discovering the limits to my compassion, because it has stopped me from being self-righteous. I am grateful for taking up smoking at 16 because it taught me that I was strong enough to quit, and also to know what it is to have an addiction. I am grateful for being let go from a job I loved and excelled at because it propelled me to work for myself, which I love even more.
  • Anne Sherwood
    On this a sweet St Patty's Day
    I'm grateful for me failures
    without them I'd be someone else
    of an inauthentic nature!
  • kristen
    I am thankful for the failure of being the worst friend ever 10 years ago. It lead to a friendship " divorce" as we fondly call it now. When we reunited I truly knew what being a real friend meant....we both learned and are now a sisterhood.
  • I'm totally with you, Danielle.

    If my last relationship hadn't failed, I wouldn't be with the love of my life.
    If I hadn't gone through the pain of rejection as a dancer, I wouldn't have the same passion for helping people reclaim their creative selves.
    If I hadn't had to drop out of university the first time, I wouldn't have ended up on the wild, adventurous, personally evolutionary career path I've been on.

    I think failure brings out the rebel in me :)
  • I was "asked to leave" my last job because I "made too many mistakes." While I am embarrassed to admit what happened, I'm also celebrating that it did happen because it was possibly the worst job I'd ever had and the worst person I'd ever worked for. That failure has taught me to really seek what makes me happy and for that, I celebrate it.

    Huzzah!
  • Love this post. Love it, love it.

    I'm thankful for the failure of my last relationship. If it didn't fail, I wouldn't be married to my soul mate.

    I'm thankful (to a degree) for the failure of my parent's marriage. If it didn't fail, there would be much more misery in the lives of those I love, & I never would have met some people who I now consider my family.

    I'm thankful for the failure of my acting career, as it allowed me to discover life coaching and pursue a new passion.
  • jo martin
    I don't know that I've had failures -- I walk a road until I relaize it's not for me, then I stop, turn around and take another road. For example: I did a year of law school, realized that what I was there to learn was to overcome my fear of law, legal papers and attorneys. I quit. But I worked 25 years as an uncowed proud legal secretary/word processer and have been able to translate legalese into English for any number of people who couldn't afford an attorney for something so simple. I took up drafting only to learn how to print that cool way they do. Some folks saw me as failing in law school; my father thought I was a falure as a drafts"man". Phooey on 'em! I know my truth!

    I heard Carol Rodgers interviewed once. He was asked if he had planned his life. His face was wrinkled in puzzles and he replied ":No. I oozed"." He explained that he went in one direction until it wasn't comfortable any more then he changed course and went in another direction. Yea!

    All that said, I totally agree that "failures" can teach as much or more than so-called successes.
  • Emerson Zora Hamsa
    Thanks, D!
    One of the hardest things for me to understand right now is the good that can come from my failures. It is a hard lesson.
    Emerson
  • I love this post! Setbacks, failures, and mistakes are opportunities to be embraced!

    I'm grateful for not getting an academic job, for I wouldn't be at the wonderful government job that I have now.
    I'm grateful for being accepted to my safety schools, and none ranked higher, for those are the schools that were the best fit for me.
    I'm grateful for all my past suffering, for I wouldn't have sought to achieve mental health and happiness.
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